Hi Simon,
the problem is that my old Db is really big, it won't be copied through the upgrader. I've tried to leave my computer on for the whole night, the second day i checked, it is still copying

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so what i did was to make a dump file of my old db, then empty all the records in the old db. they copy the old db to new one with loaded commerce upgarder. then load the dump file to the new db, then my new db strucutre was replaced by the old one. I hope you get my point, it's really a headache

I tried to save my old db tables one by one as xls file, then loaded it to the new db. that worked fine, and would keep my new db structure. but since i have more than 100 tables, it's also a lot of work to do it manually.
Thanks.